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Learning vs College Applications

“What should I do during vacation… you know, to look good on college applications?”

I hear this question often. Students and parents usually want to know if attending an organized camp, traveling far away to help people, or taking a college class will look good on college applications. I first acknowledge that each of these experiences can be valuable—and then suggest that painting a house, babysitting, publishing a blog, getting a j.o.b., learning an instrument, taking a bike apart, learning to sew, taking a daily walk, volunteering, speak (and think!) only in Spanish for a week, or even becoming a busker… can be just as valuable, when approached with the right mindset and two questions.

“Never let formal education get in the way of your learning.”

– Mark Twain

Okay, what are these questions that lead to college application success?

  1. Why am I doing this? (No, really, why?)
  2. What did I learn today?

A student who habitually keeps these two questions front of mind, every day, will shine on any application. “Why did I take X class, program, job, internship, trip?” And “What were the most important things I learned, and why are they important?” Document answers. Share answers with others. Apply what you learned. Applicants will quickly separate themselves from all the other outstanding academics and test takers by providing clear evidence of self-driven and intentional choice-making, and authentic reflection.

However, this isn’t just about college applications. We would all be more effective if we started the day by asking “Why am I doing this?” and finishing with “What did I learn?” Unfortunately, the competition, hype, and unwarranted focus on admission to elite colleges has derailed all of us from attending to Why? and What? But colleges and universities are now looking beyond GPA and SAT scores. Spurred by increasing student depression, anxiety, and suicides, schools are shifting evaluation criteria and now actively seek students who routinely ask these important questions. Why? Because student who ask these questions make better choices, and are more successful in college. They become intentional learners and make thought(filled)-driven choices.

“My grandmother wanted me to have an education, so she kept me out of school.”

– Margaret Mead

The most competitive college applicants will provide clear evidence for attending to Why? and What? questions. Can a student effectively communicate why they did X, and what they learned? Students who provide consistent evidence of these behaviors will stand out like a beacon in a sea of sameness. Where students go during vacations or what they do is secondary to what they learn. Learning to effectively communicate their intentional, self-driven, and courageous growth is the best way a student can… you know, look good on college applications.

“Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.”

– Albert Einstein

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Earbuds, Isolation, and Relationships

I am concerned. Students tell me they are excited to go to college to make new friends and build relationships. However, when I visit campuses I quickly encounter barriers that squelch impromptu conversations, the basic foundation for making new friends and building relationships. These barriers are everywhere.

Beats by Dre and Apple Airpods

Although research provides substantive evidence that teens are increasingly isolated, depressed, and plagued by anxiety in high school and college, incentives to connect with others in person are decreasing. And while there is no definitive correlation between depression and screen time, social media, smartphones, Netflix binging, video games, or earbuds, the temptation exists to suggest that one of them—or a combination—is an 800 lb. gorilla. But that is not what this post is about.

I tell students (and parents) that the best way to really discover a school is to visit the campus and talk to students, professors, campus police, groundskeepers, and local police. Each of these unique groups provides invaluable and nuanced information about the school’s students and culture. Unfortunately, a quickly growing number of students—the best source of current school culture—walk across campus, through buildings, in bathrooms (I wish I was kidding), and even in classrooms with earphones or earbuds firmly in place. Students with earbuds are, by design, much less aware of their surroundings and other people and rarely take time to initiate a conversation. Consequently, earphones and earbuds dramatically decrease opportunities to meet people and build relationships, the very reasons students attend college. More importantly, earphones don’t just decrease socialization, they increase isolation, one of the most commonly referenced indicators of teen depression.

Sometimes, however, isolation is what earphone users are seeking. Research on earbuds/earphones and productivity is not conclusive; however, some intentionally use them as a very effective barrier to social interaction. While earphones may be used as a social shield to interaction, most people are polite and do not like to intrude, impose, or disturb others. This is especially true when someone indicates they are engaged, and headphones provide that indicator, intentionally or not. This creates an interesting social dilemma.

While the proliferation of personal music/content devices and earphones or earbuds is relatively new the social expectation surrounding their use is still evolving, but not as fast as sales. Increasing content and better technology are driving sales upward, rapidly. In the meantime, increasing social anxiety, depression, and suicide on college campuses suggest we are not socially, culturally, or psychologically prepared for the isolation students are experiencing.

The current digitally connected and socially unprepared generation of high school graduates is eagerly heading to college, ready to meet people, build relationships, and grow as individuals. But maybe they should leave the earbuds out for a bit. Be brave. Practice conversational skills to build the relationships they crave. Research shows strong, lasting relationships are directly linked to physical and mental health indicators like anxiety and depression. And if the Harvard Grant Study is right, if we want to increase happiness, health, and longevity, taking out the earbuds and learning to cultivate deep and meaningful relationships might be a great place to start.

For more on the recent behavioral and cultural trends among teens, I recommend iGen, by Dr. Jean M. Twenge.

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